From getting lettuce stuck in your teeth, to sitting with strangers, to the bad dance moves, who doesn’t love a wedding?
It used to just be about the open bar & judging the color scheme. But now, I have a different outlook. They’re my friends, not just family members or people my parents know. Throughout college, you’ve seen a lot of these relationships develop, and now they’re inviting you to their most special day!
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You can get some of the biggest books you’ve ever seen that are stuffed full of wedding etiquette. But I’m just going to hit the highlights, and some of the most important things to remember.
- Gifts are expected unless stated otherwise.
- You can try to hop on early & get the cheapest gift on the registry.
- Know that you could always get the happy couple a gift card, knowing that there will be other little things they’ll need.
- RSVP on time!
- This is SO important for the wedding planner, caterer, and event venue. It’s a headache for everyone involved if you don’t respond, so make sure you do, whether you’ll be in attendance or not.
- Don’t assume anything.
- Whether it’s a plus one, your children, or a hotel accommodation- if you have a question, it’s best to ask.
- Don’t include your children/date on the RSVP if the invite did not include them explicitly.
- Don’t show up late!
- If you’re like me, you’re prone to getting stuck in traffic. So be sure to leave early enough that you won’t walk in late to the ceremony.
- Keep the drinks to a minimum.
- There are so many family members around, and it’s a day that you’d hate to ruin for your friend. You don’t want to put it on them to have to explain your behavior to their Great-Aunt Mable. Try to keep your wits about you.
- If there’s a dance floor, grab a bud & let loose! It’s likely they paid a DJ a good chuck of change to be there, so don’t let them think it was a waste!
- Be aware of the dress code.
- Is it a formal wedding? Cocktail? Is it a beach or garden party?
- Google what the attire should include & be considerate of what the couple has requested of you.
- Say thanks!
- Seek out the couple, or even their parents, to let them know you enjoyed yourself! It’ll mean the world to them.
Know that your friend appreciates your presence, even if they’re too busy to say it directly to you. Take photos at the reception & share it with them later to let you know how much you enjoyed their day. Enjoying yourself is one of the best gifts you can give the couple!